It is the season of celebrating love and honoring what that means in a romantic, and/or platonic, way. This post will provide some suggestions and advice on how to spend this day of love.
First things first, get out of the routine. Do something that you normally wouldn’t, something that y’all said that y’all wanted to try a while ago but never did. Don’t allow the same excuses to get in the way. Get out of your head. Get out of the comfort of regular sex, regular date night special. Try a new position. Try a new restaurant or activity. Book a staycation. Have sex all over the hotel room, just because.
It’s all about finding new ways to connect. Exploring your relationship/marriage on a new level. Exploring your sexual experience in a different way. Push each other outside of one another’s comfort zone. What’s the worst that can happen? You won’t like the new things that you tried. Then make a note of it to never try it again, or figure out how to make it better. Either way, it was worth a shot.
If you are implementing something that you want to explore, make sure you make it an open and comfortable space for your partner. Do not make them feel judged or criticized. Do not rush them. Do not make them wrong for struggling or not enjoying it as much as you. Comfort them. Encourage them. Guide them. Be gentle. This is a new space for them so they are adjusting. Allow them to do just that.
If you are the person on the receiving end of the new adventure, I’m assuming that you agreed to trying it, so try it. Be open. Be present. Don’t be so quick to shut it down because “it’s not your thing”. The point of getting out of your comfort zone and trying something new is to experience it. It is okay to be uncomfortable. You’ve never been there before so you’re trying to figure it all out.
Most importantly, have fun. This is your partner, your best friend, your person, etc. It’s time to stop making excuses and putting off doing something that you all said that you were going to, but never find the time to do so. It is long overdue and well deserved.
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